Ep 91 - Making Time for You - How To Prioritise Well-being in a Busy World

Faye Casement Author

May 19, 2024 |

https://open.spotify.com/episode/7MS57MHQ474uHPwUiHwfT6?si=21e711ad15034c0c

Hello hello hello and welcome to today's episode, coming up I am going to be talking about something that I see cropping up time and time again for me and others... how we actually make time for our well-being in our busy lives.
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In our time together today, we'll delve into why we often feel trapped in a cycle of busyness, how we can redefine our relationship with time, and the subtle yet powerful shifts that can help us place our well-being at the forefront of our lives.
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Because whilst we feel like we have significant responsibilities, for others, our career or business the relationship we have with ourselves and our well-being is the foundation upon which everything else is built.
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Understanding Our Relationship with Time:

Do you ever feel like time is an elusive creature, that no matter how fast you go you can’t seem to keep or to get everything done?

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Yeah, I've been there too. Getting stuck in the do cycle is a real thing.
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How do you know you are in the do cycle?
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- You constantly are putting things off the accompanying thoughts being things like ‘I’ll just do this one thing and then I will…’ only to find out you have ran out of time?
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- You find yourself constantly rushing from one task to another without taking breaks or slowing down thinking you just need to do more to succeed.
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- Feelings of guilt and stress can arise due as you think you have spent your time on the wrong thing.
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- Your daily schedule is filled with back-to-back commitments and deadlines, leaving little time for relaxation or self-care.
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- Overcommitting to projects or events, causes you to feel overwhelmed and unable to enjoy the present moment.
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- Difficulty in prioritising tasks effectively, resulting in unfinished projects and a sense of unfulfillment.
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- You feel like you are at the mercy of everything and everyone else.
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- You constantly wish you HAD more time in the day.
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Here is a gem for you… it's not about having more time; it's about reshaping how you view and use the time you have.
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Many of us, me included, can wear our busyness like a badge of honour we can take extreme pride in the work we do. We can also be a martyr to it as well throwing ourselves on the busy sword so as to have a perfect excuse, bizarrely considering we are so busy, not to do something. In this case to look after our health and well-being.
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This constant hustle can warp our sense of time, making us feel perpetually behind. Feeling like we are going around and around on a hamster wheel.
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It's time to get off the hamster wheel and to work on seeing time differently. Time doesn’t have to be our enemy, the same as when I teach that food doesn’t have to be the enemy.
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This is all controllable and changeable if we work on our beliefs and thoughts.
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I want to challenge you curiously with love right now and ask you:
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What if you have more control over your time, over your life than you think?
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What if you could change things so you could find the time for your health and well-being?
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What if you’d be saving yourself time in the long run if you did?
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What if looking after your health and well-being is not the big massive time suck that you think? And
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What if the thing you are prioritising over your health and well-being doesn’t need the priority you think it does?
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Time ultimately is an age-old excuse. It rolls off The tongue easily, automatically and everyone understands it.
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It’s easy to say we don’t have time and we can be so used to saying it we don't even question if it is true.
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BUT
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What if it's lies?
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What if, and I say this with love. You do have time but you are choosing not to do whatever it is you are putting off? What if you are choosing your currently reality thinking you have no alternatives but actually you have loads you are just closed of to considering them as you are so stuck in the do cycle you cannot see it?
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Ooof, how does that feel?
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If that hit a nerve, I hear you. This has been me too.
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Sometimes we get so used to doing something a certain way that we don't see the excuses we are making and sometimes it is hard to even admit you make excuses in the first place and we want to fight for our current reality even though it is busted af and in need of a serious work over.
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The resistance you feel right now is where the work is and if you want things to change you have to explore that with love and curiosity.
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Right now if any of this resonates it may be a sign that you have a mindset that could be limiting you, keeping you away from what truly matters. You could be feeling very time poor and lacking which is ultimately a scarcity mindset,
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Having a scarcity mindset leads to self-fulfilling prophecies that hinder your ability to see abundance and opportunity. It can hold you back from taking risks, trying new things, and pursuing your goals with confidence.
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Gaining this awareness, understanding your relationship with time, and acknowledging this mindset is the first step towards changing it.
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Let's start to break down some of those mind blocks starting today.
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If you are a member I would encourage you to use the TLC method for your time thoughts.
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Ask yourself is it true? Is it loving and get curious.
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Notice when you say and think you don't have time and try shifting the language and reframing this as an action step. Consider saying I have "I have all the time I need for the things that truly matter.", or "I can make take", "How can I make time?", "What am I saying yes to and could I say know to it and how?"
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The Power of Small Changes:

I have talked many a time on the show about the power of small changes. We can make things like working on our health and well-being big giant mountains that we think are too hard to climb but again I challenge with love and say:

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What if they are not as big as you think?
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What if you could break it down, keep it simple, easy and bite-size and something you can do on the go even if you are 'busy'
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It may feel like you are only dropping a pebble into a pond and because you are a 'doer' you will think you are not doing enough and this is where doing some mind ninjary or reaching out for coaching comes in, but in time you see those pebble ripples spread. The pebbles can become rocks and the rocks become boulders but all you feel like you are doing is moving a pebble.
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Think about it. When you're racing from one task to the next, what's a small act of self-care you can weave in? Maybe it's a five-minute breather with your favourite tune or a cuppa in silence, just savouring the warmth and the break from the chaos. These moments, as tiny as they might seem, are your pit stops. They're where you refuel, so you don't run your engine into the ground.
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As I said these mini pitstops the mini adjustments are the pebbles but they can then begin to stack up. Before you know it, they're not just isolated actions; they're your new way of being. You're not just surviving your days; you're infusing them with little snippets of joy and care. And trust me, your future self will thank you for that.
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As a doer and all around busy bee remember it's not about overhauling your life overnight. It's about one small step, one belief, one bite, one tiny choice at a time until they become significant and before you know it you're living a life of intention, care, and a whole lot of self-love.
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Choice and Prioritisation:

Continuing on with taking action and making time. Let's talk about the crux of the issue here. Your choices and current priorities.
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It's easy to feel like we're at the mercy of our schedules and all things on our to-do lists, isn't it?
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Surviving not thriving trying to keep up with what we perceive in any given moment are the demands of life, often then letting ourselves and our needs trailing in the dust.
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Yet we often do have more power than we think. Every day, with every decision, we're choosing what to prioritise. And it's time we start choosing ourselves a bit more.
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Think about your typical day. It's a series of choices, right? From the moment you wake up to when your head hits the pillow again, your are deciding all day how to spend our time.
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Sure, some things can seem like non-negotiables and or a priority such as, work, family commitments, that sort of thing. But even within those non-negotiables, there's wiggle room. It's about finding those pockets of choice where we can say, "Hey, my well-being matters too."
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There are many ways to coach around time, many tools we can use depending on what the problem is in the first place. Likewise, Belief Coding®️ can help too.
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The first step though as always is awareness.  Really pay attention to how you're spending your time. You might be surprised at the moments you can reclaim for yourself. And then, it's about intention. Make a conscious decision to insert a bit of self-care into those reclaimed moments. Maybe it's choosing to listen to an uplifting podcast on your commute or listening to music. Or perhaps it's spending ten minutes hugging the cat when you get home, letting the joy and simplicity of that interaction reset your stress levels.
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These small acts of care are not as a luxury, but as a necessity not just to be better for ourselves; we become better for the people around us and the people we help whether that be in work or business. We show up more fully, more authentically, and with a lot more to give.
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Addressing Psychological Resistance:

How are you doing so far? Let me know what is coming up for you in the comments.
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Are you noticing any resistance to what I am saying?
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It's likely you are. Psychological resistance can occur for a number of reasons. I have a list of them that I work through with my 1 to 1 clients. If we don't work to remove resistance you will keep hitting your head up against the brick wall.
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What is your inner voice saying when it is conjuring up every reason under the sun why you can't make time for yourselves. "I have to do it or else?" "I need to be there for everyone else," or "I don't know how?" Any of this sound familiar?
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Often, the resistance we feel isn't really about time. It's about what we're conditioned to believe we deserve or what we're capable of changing. It might be that we are worried about cause and effect to us or others. It could be about not wanting to do the thing or feeling like we don't know how. It might be about facing a discomfort that change might bring. Because our brains like us to stick to the familiar, even if it's not serving us, it can feel a lot safer than stepping into the unknown.
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All of these can be navigated though if we listen to our thoughts. Work on our underlying beliefs and really peel back the layers with curiosity, not judgment and a good dose of self-love.
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Practical Steps Forward To Wrap Up

Starting to wrap up I want to leave you thinking about what we have covered.
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The importance of working on your relationship with time, your beliefs, thoughts and feelings, stepping into action so small that time really is no issue and facing your objections.
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What do you need to believe about time, about you, your well-being needs to make just a little time for you and your well-being? And how can you get that done today or tomorrow?
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As usual, you don't have to go this alone, you can seek support, you can work with me to crack the code on your relationship with time and weight loss.
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There's a whole community of us striving to make our well-being a priority. There is more support, more strategies, and more insights on how to weave well-being into your busy life available for you so check it out today. 👉 READ MORE 👈
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Until next week, take care of yourself. Find a little window for you. You do deserve it.
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Bye for now!

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