Ep: #60 Stepping Out of Your Comfort Zone in Life and Weight Loss-

TD:LR Fear is a powerful emotion that can keep us from achieving our goals and success, particularly in the area of weight loss. It often manifests as a fear of failure, change, or the unknown. Yet, by recognizing and understanding our fears, we can step out of our comfort zone and make positive changes in our lives. Read my story.

Hello Hello Hello and welcome to episode number 60 of the Wellness 4 Women Show

Stepping Out of Your Comfort Zone in Life and Weight Loss

Fear the final frontier...

We are the voyagers on the journey of life...

The mission to explore new more empowering ways to live our lives and to lose weight...

To explore ourselves...

To seek out our real truth and to boldly take action and go where we have not gone before!

(A geeky Star Trek reference and I am loving it!)

Fear can be a powerful force and saboteur that stops us from achieving our goals.

Our subconscious, in her infinite wisdom, is constantly trying to keep us safe. She wants us to stay in our comfort zone, to keep the status quo, to stay safe and secure.

It's her job and she is bloody good at it!.

Little does she is sometimes too good and doing us a disservice by preventing us from growing, learning and becoming the true version of ourselves where we can reach our full potential!

So today on the show I am going to talk about stepping out of your comfort zone and together breaking free from the limitations and barriers that keep you stuck in the same place.

This is a safe space tell me in the chat what are your fears and worries? Life or weight loss related as at the end of the day the two knock into each other.

Don't be shy.

We all have fears. It's ok to admit it.

So talk to me ladies let's dig in and get cracking to bust through the things that are holding you back.

Facing My Fears

I'll start as I want you to feel comfortable...

I've worked on a number of fears but the fear of failure was the most prevalent one as it ran and still runs at times through all I do.

Recovering perfectionist over here 👋👋

Before I started my weight loss journey I would fear failure so much that I didn't even try.

It was Illogical when I look back the underlying dialogue was 'If I don't start I can't fail' I did this for years but I didn't realist at the time that what this meant was I was failing ahead of time by not trying at all.

I faced many fears:

• I was fearful I would not lose weight... I had never been successful at it before so why would I have been this time around.
• I would worry at work that I would get in trouble, say or do something wrong and cause a major complaint or claim.
• I have avoided relationships for fear of getting hurt.
• I was fearful starting my business that nobody would be interested in what I would have to say, whether I would get trolled, people wouldn't like me, wouldn't value my service etc.
• I feared I was a bad mother and was not giving my daughter all she need.

I could go on and on - as there have been so many fears and worries over the years.

They used to eat me up inside. I would often wake up at night and struggle to get back to sleep replaying conversations and scenarios in my head.

I would worry and get intrusive thoughts constantly about life, love, weight loss, work etc it was exhausting.

I stayed in my comfort zone and played small as I could to slip under the radar. I people pleased, I tolerated, I hid and ultimately suffered as a result.

So what changed?

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>I started to edge out of my comfort zone.

I started to look at my life in a different way. I began to challenge my limiting beliefs, the stories I told myself that were no longer serving me.

Before the thought of failure or when I failed at something it was like an endpoint. It seemed finite like there was no going past go or collecting $200 dollars. I was dumb, useless, not good enough, broken, stupid, a failure and I couldn't see past that.

However, I started to change my language and focus on learning instead of failure.

I started to identify what had been good, what I might do differently next time around and how I could regroup, bounced back as I vowed to never give up?

I learned through the weight loss process that failure is only feedback and a learning opportunity.

It made me realise that failure was actually ok as it meant I was pushing, it meant I was trying. It meant I was growing as I was going out of my comfort zone. Out of the safe zone that was keeping me stuck and doing my best in any given moment.

It was finally time for me to take ownership of my life and everything in it. To then work on claiming what it was that I wanted and who I wanted to be.

One of my coaches used to say if you don't feel a little sick are you even growing.

Now personally, I hate feeling sick so this was not the best thing for me to want I could tell you a whole different story about how that came to be from a Belief Coding®️ facilitation I did on myself. Let me know if you want to know more about that but I get the sentiment. Staying in the safe zone, staying in the comfort zone will be comfortable but it can hold you back.

Weight Loss and Your Comfort Zone

So moving into weight loss how does stepping out of your comfort zone impact your weight loss?

I did an interesting Belief Coding®️ session on myself this week.

I wanted to explore where I was at with my weight loss.

A little backstory.

I have had a regain and I have been trying to figure out why, what I can do about it and whether I even want to.

When I started my weight loss journey I set a goal 'as you do'. To be honest, it was a figure I plucked out of thin air.

I wanted to lose 70lb.

I had no idea what 70lb off would look like or how I would feel when I go there. Was it realistic for me, my life or my body.

At the start of my journey, the numbers on the scale were all I cared about.

As a result, there was a lot of scale drama. I still had the diet thinking 'I've been good all week why hasn't the scale moved'; I would have shame from gains, I would think I wasn't doing enough to make the needle move. It would all be about me as a person rather than a factual exploration of the facts.

As I started to let go of old diet thinking which is all about weight. I started to move more into focusing on the process. Had I shown up for myself in the way I wanted to? If not why not? What could I learn and how could I push myself and level up how could I step out of my comfort zone just a little. I did this for my life goals and my weight loss goals.

I started to notice patterns connected to my hormones and I started to work on being compassionate to myself and this is when the weight started to move as I started to let go of the drama.

I didn't do any drastic weight loss programs and continued to use intuitive eating techniques as I was done with calories, points and other methods that left me feeling miserable.

I hit goal and I thought I had finally nailed it.

I was exactly where I wanted to be. I had got to goal. I was doing a lot of self development and driving my life. I had great routines that served me and I had a purpose which was to help others find their purpose and joy through the weight loss process and to ditch the diet drama as I was freeeeeee.

So what changed? How all of sudden did I have the regain?

I had it all.

Queue the old fear thoughts.

• Oh my god I am going to regain it all
• I have lost control again
• I will never lose it again
• I have set myself up as weight loss coach but now I am gaining weight... this is a disaster! How embarrassing. Why would anyone want to use my services!!

Cue a shrink back to my comfort zone and cue sabotage as my dear subconscious brain was saying come back inside it's nice here, here have some chocolate and a blanket you are safe here. Have a lie down.

So this is the context I have been finding myself in.

I have had a regain and I have been trying to figure out why, what I can do about it and whether I even want to.

What I am realising even writing this show is that I am not the person I was when I set that 70lb target, I'm far from it.

Each show I write, each person I talk to, each member meeting I hold, each conversation with my accountability partners/friends/family, each journal session, each Belief Coding®️ session changes me and my perspective.

I actually haven't weighed regularly for about 3 months. It is very sporadic, I keep forgetting mostly. Yes, I would still like to lose the weight I have gained and go back to below 150lb but there is a barrier that has arisen. Rationally I know I can do it as I did it before I have evidence that my method works and it works well. I know it does not have to be hard and I can keep it easy so why the hell am I not doing it? Cue more judgement and shame.

I have been journaling on it, getting coaching on it and had a variety of theories to play with various avenues I could try. This is the beauty of intuitive eating, mindfulness and life coaching you are not just trying to knuckle your way through a fixed diet program and wondering why the hell you can't stick to it - we can figure that shit out!

As Marie Foleo says and I truly believe it 'Everything is figueroutable'. Check out the book the link is in the description <<HERE>>

And figure it out I will. This is my one constant that I consistently come back to and will not waiver from if I want something I can have it I just need to figure out who I want to be and set about taking action to make it happen.

So my Belief Coding®️ Session. We start by identifying the discomfort. Easy peasy 'Weight gain'. The negative belief was that I won't be able to lose it again. As part of the process, your mind shows you what we call reflections, which are snippets of your subconscious. Sometimes it can be an actual memory or event, others a feeling, a story or a metaphor but the key is to trust the process. Your subconscious due to the way we tap into it is showing you exactly what you need to know and nothing that you can't handle.

So I get a vision come to mind, random as this sounds I am in the womb. Clear as day it is like I am a baby in the womb. I feel warm and safe. I can hear my mum on the outside saying she is not ready. I am not due yet. (another very quick back story - my mum went in for a check-up and went into labour, couple of hours later and I had arrived. Kind of wish I had put 2 and 2 together on this before today as I had a similar birth story for my daughter!).

Anyhoo, there was then another series of memories/flashes where I was in my comfort zone and holding myself back and each time the aim is to help whatever reflection is coming up to feel 10 out of 10 to heal your subconscious and the trauma it had in that moment. It is thought reframing like we would do consciously in life coaching but on steroids!

I then coded in my new beliefs but this is the beauty it is still percolating through. Even today as I write this and think about it I am continuing to gather awareness.

I have reverted to my comfort zone 🤯 I am taking safe actions, actions that keep me safe yes but also unmoving. You can actually feel very busy in the safe zone. It can feel like you are doing all the things as life continues on but we can also get busy doing things that do not move us forward.

The next part of my journey is to figure out if I want to step out of my comfort zone, if so what action steps do I want to take with love and compassion and how can I then make it happen. You guessed it I will be following my Tiple-A-Way™️ process and I will keep you updated as to how I get on.

So today's growth work for you:

Are you currently in your comfort zone? Sticking with the same old because it is what you know?

Are you happy there? If not why not?

Are you ready to stick a toe out of that comfort zone?

Conclusion

Fear can be such a powerful force that it keeps us from achieving our goals and success, especially in the area of weight loss. But by recognizing your fears, understanding them and using practical strategies to confront them, you can step out of your comfort zone and create lasting transformation. The key is to take action with love and compassion for yourself, while also trusting the process as you move forward towards reaching your desired outcomes. You have the power and knowledge within you to overcome your fears, to step out of your comfort zone and to make positive changes in your life!

OK, that's it folks. Don't forget to check on the description for all relevant links. Reach out to the Wellness 4 Women Community & reach out to me if you want help figuring out how you can find sustainable weight loss with more joy in the process.

Want to get cracking and need some support you know where I am check out the description on how you can work with me.

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