Ep: #28 - Ask Me Anything!

Faye Casement Author

Mar 22, 2023 |

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This week’s Wellness 4 Women Show was one with a difference. It was an Ask Me Anything!

Members of the Wellness 4 Women Facebook™️ group were able to ask questions regarding their life and weight loss.

It can sometimes feel uncomfortable to put your head above the surface and say I need help with this. Having a safe space to work on your life, wellness, and weight loss can be so beneficial and that is the aim of the Wellness 4 Women Facebook™️ Group.

I also announced this month's Wellness 4 Women Gem. I try and drop value and little gems of knowledge, but I want you to be actively using the information for your wellbeing. Therefore, the person who is top of the pops on the engagement stats at the back end wins a voucher.

Here is a rundown of some of the types of questions that can come up.

How do I stop myself from grabbing unhealthy foods when I have let myself get too hungry?

Firstly, try not to let yourself get too hungry. I encourage working on getting to know your 'hunger scale'. There are various versions of it but if you want access to my version, drop me a DM with a #hungerscale. This is a big part of intuitive eating and also a key one for weight loss. Many of us have gone through life not listening to our minds and bodies for years and this is where the magic happens and how you can keep it easy.

You want to look to start eating when you are physically in need of food, not because you are bored, sad, angry; because it is time or another habit; because someone offered it etc.

Then work on stopping when your body is physically satiated rather than full and uncomfortable.

So how do you work on not getting too hungry?

You gather AWARENESS.

💎 How does your body feel?

💎 How did you get to the point where you were too hungry?

💎 What was going on in life?

💎 What thoughts were you having?

You then STEP INTO ACTION.

💎 How can you avoid getting too hungry?

💎 If you get too hungry again, what could you do differently?

💎 How can you set yourself up for success?

Follow this with ACCOUNTABILITY

💎 Continue to figure it out,

💎 Keep curious,

💎 Stay kind to yourself and,

💎 Keep knocking down the dominoes.

Your Life Jigsaw

I talked also with regards to how I view life and weight loss like a jigsaw (hence the logo!)

Each piece of your life and weight loss is a piece of the puzzle.

Like a jigsaw, you have to get all the pieces out and spread them on the table.

Some are obvious when you find them, the corner pieces, the next easiest are the straight edges, and then you have the messy bits in the middle. Some are face up, some twisted and some are upside down. There are also the lost ones, that fell on the floor, and never got put back in the box!

When you get all of these pieces out on the table this is when you can start to build the picture, you take action, and if you want to finish it you stay accountable until all those pieces are placed.

The jigsaw is the picture of your life!

Things that knock the Wellness 4 Women off 'track' with weight loss.

I post questions in the group to help the members gather awareness and to encourage action. This was one that I posted this week and so I ran through some of these in the AMA.

Tiredness & Life With Kids

This is a common one, I have been talking about sleep and energy a lot lately. It makes total sense that if you have children those little cherubs are going to change the way you want and need to show up in a day.

You may feel you never have any time for yourself, that you are always having to look after them and their needs, that it would be selfish if you take time for yourself, or that you have to be at everyone’s beck and call.

You wouldn’t be alone. Many moms feel like this. It can lead to us feeling like we have lost our identity, that we are no longer us but just Mom, Wife, Partner, Friend, etc.

This leads to a whole host of thoughts and feelings some of which will most likely not be true.

It also means you have extra dynamics to figure out how you want and can show up for you and your weight loss.

I get it, I am a divorced Mum of 1. I have lost my weight whilst having to balance work and home and all the thoughts and emotions that have gone with it.

However, I am just a normal girl so if I can do it I know you can. You just need to figure out your life jigsaw and start to place the pieces. One tiny piece at a time.

First things first you need to establish who you want to be. You have got to know the picture you are aiming for. So, grab the Future You Resource and work on this as your first step.

Worried you won’t find the time? We often think we don’t have time. Our brains LOOOVE to tell us this story. But a story it often is. If you had an emergency right now you would find the time. I am not saying completing this is an emergency but you can apply the same principles. What could you jiggle about today to find 10-20 minutes? Watch one less show on Netflix, rope in a family member to help, arrange a play date etc.

Self-Sabotage

Another common one. This member advised they felt they were doing really well at the moment but that there is a risk they will become complacent and the newer healthier habits will start to slip.

Self-sabotage can occur for a number of reasons but the first thing to know is that this is normal and it will happen. You are human.

The key is to use the Triple-A-Way Process to reduce the impact as quickly as you can.

If you were to join the membership you will hear me talk about how you can break into the cycle at 3 different times: before, during, and after.

Each time you do, you are gathering more awareness that you can then use to step into action over.

There is a whole course in my drafts that when ‘live’ will be available in the membership.

Life & Willpower

This is an interesting one for me as it is all about what I teach as outlined in the Jigsaw metaphor above. It is about looking at what in life impacts your weight loss.

Is it your job, family, going out with friends, or combinations of all of these? There are internal and external factors at play that you can get to the bottom of with the Triple-A-Way method.

I do believe you can have your cake and eat it when it comes to weight loss and it is important you enjoy your life.

This is why the willpower part is something I would wholly dispute. This is not to say you may never choose to do something hard of course you can and I have no doubt you can do hard things that require willpower if you put your mind to it. However, I would argue why would you want to if you can keep it easy.

Now the thing with easy is not about it is about hacking into what you want to do. If you want to do it you will do it. It is that simple. If you don’t want to do it you will feel you need willpower, that it is hard etc It is in this resistance that you can find the juiciest awareness. Keep going through the resistance and taking action and you grow.

Depression

Depression and any other long-term mental or physical conditions naturally will impact life and weight loss.

They are however not always the precursor of weight loss doom that they can at first appear. I know of a number of individuals who have lost weight with chronic illnesses.

The key is to know yourself, mind, body, and soul.

You are unique and this is why you need to build your own system of weight loss with the right tools for you and why cookie-cutter diets may not work as you are trying to follow things that are designed for the masses not designed for you and the way your condition impacts your life, mind, body, and soul.

If you are having a difficult day with your health or your thoughts are in the toilet regarding how you feel then support needs to be available for this.

You need a way to get to know the impact certain medications or treatments have on you or if it is something with no rhymes or reason a method that can help you work on acceptance so you can find peace.

You need a community behind you cheering you on.

Hangovers

Alcohol itself and the after-effects can all of course impact weight loss. Not that I count calories but alcohol does put energy into your body that it may not need which could impact your journey.

You then have the day after. The hangover munchies, the tiredness leading to cravings, emotional eating as you recall the night before, the temptation to not follow your plan that day as you feel so crappy, the dehydration.

All of this will knock your body, mind and soul out of equilibrium.

Do you have to quit alcohol? No, not unless you want to.

Do you have to limit it? No, not unless you want to.

May your journey be impacted? Yes.

So what do you do?

You decide.

You have to take ownership of your choices. Continue to gather awareness, and see how it impacts your mind and body. Decide if it is worth it or could you do something different?

Back in the day when I went to slimming world. I remember there was a guy there killing it! His plan…eat nothing but stag curry (it was free then) all week then down 10 pints Friday and Saturday night. So as I often say what you eat or the quality of it is not necessarily always the key to weight loss. However, only you can decide what you can sustain or not and whether you want to have a more balanced intake.

Food

Yeah, that’s why we are here right?

The members were reporting that they just loved food too much. That they couldn’t stop eating things they know did not help their weight loss.

Your relationship with food is definitely a puzzle piece you want to figure out.

After years of dieting some of us can have a pretty busted view of food. Categorizing it into ‘good’ and ‘bad’. Calling things ‘treat food’. Going through a binge and restrict cycle to diet.

We also have a lot of emotional connections to food that needs to be figured out.

The thing is though it is not actually the food itself that is the problem. It is your thoughts about the food.

For example, I have a big affinity for cake and biscuits. Of course, they are yummy but it goes deeper than that. When I was a little girl I used to spend a lot of time with my Nan. We would bake cakes and biscuits and she was the most lovely person. So as a result cake and biscuits have a deeper meaning to me as comfort food if I am feeling lower. This is something I became aware of by doing my own work on my relationship with food and you could too.

Next time you go to eat something you love. Think more about what if anything it means to you? Why do you desire it is it the taste? Is it the texture? Is it the smell? Or is it deeper?

This awareness can help you to step into action.

Conclusion

Thank you for reading.  

What comes up for you in life and weight loss that knocks you off track?

How can you step into action on that today?

How can you stay accountabk

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